A letter we received from a customer...
Why The World Needs Great Coaches…On-Demand….
At this moment in time, I am sitting on a couch with a glass of wine and the charming glow of holiday lights filling my front room. There is a quiet, peaceful feeling, accompanied by the giggling I can hear from my daughter and her friends watching “A Christmas Story” in the basement. This is one of those welcome events that help me appreciate the essence of life and the fleeting moments of peace amidst the chaos. I see those moments as earned, especially since that’s not how my day started….
I’m on the job hunt, partly because of necessity, partly because of tragedy, and partly because the universe or God or whatever you believe in that is bigger than you put me in this position. It’s an unforgiving world we have created where the CV reigns supreme, and your skillset is articulated in bland text formatting, where recruiters and hiring managers have the audacious task of sifting through undoubtedly insurmountable amounts of fluff to make a determination on what candidates make the cut. Whether that candidate was forced there or doing so on their own volition, the question for me remains the same: how do you go about finding that perfect job, the one that not only fulfills career aspirations, but fulfills your purpose in life.
I know that some of you are smirking right now at the thought of finding a job that brings fulfillment AND purpose AND pays the bills. I mean really, does that exist? That is the question I asked myself this morning in my job searching. You can determine if you believe it does or does not. Either way, keep reading! The next question that came to mind was: how the hell am I going to find it? This is where I lost my drive and thought to myself “just go find a job and feed your family, it doesn’t matter”. Then I thought about the 55 employees I used to lead. Each one of them, name by name, and I realized that no matter why I was here, this is where I was, right here in this moment. There is an inspiring scene in one of my all-time favorite movies, Remember the Titans, where the defensive coordinator, Coach Yoast, is getting devoured by his competition in the championship game. In a rousing half time speech in the locker room, he admits to Coach Boone that he is getting his ass kicked. In this moment, the tragedy, the sheer necessity compels Yoast to be vulnerable and admit his inability to get ahead of the other team’s offense. There wasn’t any time to look back, to justify, to indemnify himself…he had put it out there in hopes that someone would be there to pick it up. The scene continues and Coach Boone doesn’t hesitate to lay out a plan for the rest of the game and specifically how they would change the defensive strategy. In that moment, Yoast needed a coach, and Boone was right there to answer his plea. As smart, astute, skilled and amazing as Yoast had been to get the team to the point where they were competing in the championship game, he reached a point where he needed guidance.
That is where I was today. For months I have kept my head high, kept a contagious and positive attitude, and I simply wouldn’t be defeated. All those great days aside, today I was Yoast. I needed help, now. In most cases with career coaches, it would take a few days, sometimes weeks to schedule a coaching session. No fault of traditional coaching, I believe it is important to have a consistent coach in your career. Moments pass so quickly and days or weeks from this very moment, my resilience would have already covered up and fortified any trace of vulnerability. My defenses would have rebuilt in miraculous time, creating a stronghold that nobody would dare attack. I needed somebody to help me take advantage of the courage I felt for change.
I called a friend and was immediately directed to an on-demand coaching service, CoachTalkNow. (no, I am not getting paid to endorse this website…although that would be nice in my current jobless situation!). My initial remarks to my friend were as follows:
Me: Are you kidding me? I need advice. OnDemand Coaching doesn’t have enough context or a relationship to be effective. I have a coach, she knows me already.
Friend: You need to be open to the idea and try it, I’ll even pay for it, you big baby.
Me: I don’t want your pity money. You’re just preying on my joblessness!
Friend: Don’t make me punch you, I care about you and want you to try it. Let me do this for you.
Me: (reluctantly because I REALLY dislike needing help...but remember earlier, I am in my vulnerability moment…) Fine.
Change of scene…I drove up to a bagel shop and sat down, determined to make sure my friend was wrong and it wouldn’t work. This scene of sitting at a bagel shop ready to talk to my coach only added fuel to my desire to make a joke out of this on-demand coaching session. I called, and Garry answered. The rest is a cliché, it was history.
The realization I had from this experience was compounded by a simple human condition: we all want to be understood. As I alluded to earlier, without vulnerability, for many it is next to impossible to penetrate the fortresses we build to protect us from pain, change and often times, taking action. When our backs are against the wall, when our pain exceeds our will to overcome, when we desperately seek for guidance, it’s in those moments when we are the most willing to seek help and take action. For me, an on-demand coach created an opportunity for clarity. The 30 minutes I spent with Garry gave me an opportunity to cease the moment when I needed it most. By the end, I had structure to my chaos. He was and could be a life-long coach.
You can believe it or not: you need a coach, especially when those moments occur when you feel the greatest need to modify your current trajectory in life or business. The next time you are in a moment where you need clarity, you need to unwind, you need guidance, or you simply need to talk to somebody without prejudice, I would highly recommend getting immediate interaction with a coach you can talk to, now. Seize that moment when you feel the greatest weakness, vulnerability, excitement and/or passion for change, guidance or help. It’s worth the ROI, every penny spent, and every dollar you will save in seeking to find clarity. I follow a mantra that “What you allow is what will continue” my back is against the wall. Life doesn’t come with guarantees, but I am willing to bet you will be glad you grasped the moment when change is most likely to occur.
CoachTalkNow has introduced me to a new way of engaging with a coach and my life. I’m feeling optimistic knowing Garry is in my corner and available when I need him. I can’t wait to connect with him soon.
C. Hammer – a Coach.Talk.Now customer